Simple questions, helpful tips, and support to help you start the conversation
Millions of Americans visit their doctor each year—roughly 500 million times! CDC data shows over 85% of us see a doctor annually. Most visits are for checkups, sniffles, or that small health mysterious that leave you wondering.
But here’s the thing: mental health doesn’t always get the same attention. The American Medical Association reports less than half of adults with a mental health challenge get treatment, and many kids don’t get help either. On top of that, cost and a shortage of mental health professionals can make it tough to get care.
The good news? You can bring mental health into your routine primary care visit. Collaborative care helps doctors and mental health specialists work together, which may help you access support faster, in a familiar setting, and with guidance every step of the way.
Here are five questions to help start the conversation—without the awkwardness.
1. Could my feelings be affecting my body?
Stress, anxiety, or low moods can show up as headaches, sleep troubles, fatigue, or that stomachache that seems to come out of nowhere. Asking your doctor about these connections helps them see the full picture. It could also reduce unnecessary tests or medications. And it may help you get support sooner if mental health is part of the puzzle.
2. Could stress be making my health harder to manage?
Stress isn’t just in your head—it can affect your sleep, digestion, immunity, blood sugar, and even chronic pain. Talking about stress with your doctor can make your treatment plan more effective. It can open the door to stress-busting strategies like mindfulness, movement, or therapy. And it helps you understand the connection between your mind and body. Science agrees: stress worsens health outcomes.
3. Are there behavioral or psychological approaches that could help me?
Therapy, support groups, habit changes, and coping skills are all ways to support your mental health. Asking your doctor about these options may improve outcomes for chronic conditions. It can help you address root causes like anxiety or trauma. And it can give you more control over your own healing.
4. How can I manage burnout—at work, school, or home?
Burnout is a real health issue, not just “feeling tired.” It can happen from long hours at work, endless homework, or juggling responsibilities at home. Left unchecked, burnout can lead to exhaustion, depression, or even physical illness. Asking your doctor about burnout can connect you with strategies or a licensed psychologist. It can also highlight ways to balance work, school, and life. Plus, it can give you tips to prevent bigger health problems down the line. Research backs this up: burnout impacts physical health.
5. Is it normal to feel awkward talking about mental health?
It’s more common than you might think. Mental health stigma can show up in families, communities, and even in our own thoughts. Asking about it can encourage an open, judgment-free conversation. It also shows your doctor you’re ready to talk—even if it feels weird.
Money and access matter
We get it: cost and a shortage of mental health professionals can make seeking help feel impossible. Many people avoid care because therapy seems out of reach or hard to find. If that’s you, know there are options. If you’re interested in learning more about free talk therapy through Be Strong, you can contact our care team here to see what help might be available for you.
Why these conversations matter
Talking about mental health at the doctor can make care more complete, connecting your mind and body. It can open doors to support you might not realize exists. And it can reduce stigma while helping you take charge of your well-being.
Quick prep tips:
- Write down your top 3 questions.
- Track moods, sleep, and stress for a week.
- Bring a support person if it helps.
- Peek at Bestrong.org checklists for handy tools.
Even if it feels scary, help is here—and you don’t have to do it alone.
This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. And if you’re under 18, check in with a parent or guardian before seeking support.
